TED Talk: Circle of Safety


Brene Brown, quoting a 12 year old, said, “If I get to be myself, I belong. If I have to be like you, I fit in”.

Yesterday I gave a TED Talk on Simon Sinek’s concept of the Circle of Safety found in his latest book, Leaders Eat Last. Wanted to share with as many people. My communication skills leave something to be desired, but the concept is great. So if you can get past the poor video quality + some inside insights into my current workplace, I hope it challenges you to think through how you view your work culture + co-workers.





I love Christmas, but without Easter, Christmas would be just another birthday celebration.

But Easter is a day celebrating Jesus.
Victory over death.

But it still sucks to think about who I have lost.
I miss my grandma more each year.
She’s been gone for 12 years this June.
Easter (and holidays in general) have not been the same without her.
I still go to her grave site whenever I am in the area and feel like talking to someone about life.


Combine that with the fact that my parents divorced when I was 20 and it makes for awkward conversations when people mention holiday traditions.

I’m not even sure what to say anymore.
I guess I need to start making my own traditions as a single 29-year-old.

What is your favorite Easter tradition?

“I feel like th…


“I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued.” [Kirsten Dunst] said, “We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armour. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work … ”

While many people are up in arms about what Kirsten Dunst said, I am interested.

Why is it that we are so easily offended today? We are supposedly more tolerant than ever, but I find the opposite is true. Our intolerance of differing opinions is ridiculous sometimes. Why shouldn’t she be free to express her own opinion on the matter? 

It seems to ring true that more and more women are getting jobs, making money, and getting more degrees at a younger age. But is this because of a lack of options for settling down with a man? I have talked to several of my fellow single twenty-something girlfriends who long to be wives and mothers, but because of men failing to make a move in relationships, they are working and furthering their education. I don’t think it’s a bad thing, but people are waiting longer to have kids and settle down. Makes me wonder what this new generation of kids will be like with parents who want to experience it all before settling down. 

Cooking seems to be a lost art. Not saying that women are the only ones who should cook, but why shouldn’t women WANT to pursue the blessings that come from being a wife and a mother by nurturing her family? I look forward to those days, and I hope I have enough energy to take care of little ones. 

To read the whole article from The Washington Post, click here.


Social Media: How Much is Enough?


In the past few months, I have expanded my social media outlets.

I joined Twitter… for the fourth time. (I opened accounts but lived in an area where no one really used it… now that I’m in a city, I am using it to “stay connected” with people).

I joined Instagram. I like that from a photography standpoint, but honestly, when my former roommate showed me all the filters, there’s not much difference… Ha.

I’ve always like Facebook (even when Myspace was around as my friend Lolly can attest to my preference for FB). However, a few years ago, I realized how much I don’t like Facebook for sharing personal information. Granted, you can reach your entire audience all at once and those who want to pay attention to your life and BIG MOMENTS can.

In watching HIMYM finale early Tuesday morning, I really resonated with Lilly. She’s sentimental and did not want to lose the connections she shared with people who defined moments in her life. At least they were there for each other’s Big Moments.

With social media, it seems that we are trading in big moments for pictures of those moments. A few years ago I found out about a friend’s engagement via Facebook. If I did not use Facebook for work, I probably would have shut down my account by now.

With my added accounts recently, I find myself so divided between all the outlets.

I’m easily distracted as I flit from one to the other looking for someone’s like, comment, approval.

In order to live my life to the fullest, I want to EXPERIENCE life, not just live through pictures. It is a challenge to me since I really love photography.

Do you struggle with social media? Do you ever go anywhere without your phone/camera?

Sometimes I think life is just meant to be experienced without the pressure to have something to share with others.